Sunday, November 7, 2010

Big Fat Fight

Ever have arguments with your spouse where you walk away feeling less proud of yourself than when you first entered into the boxing ring? This song, by Sara Groves, always reminds me that we can allow a heated moment to throw off a beautiful day. You can listen to the song here, but reading the lyrics is sometimes more powerful for me (see below).
Ter, I'm sorry for pushing about something so petty. I could have stopped it and I want you to read that I think you're the coolest dude I know. xo

It's Me

weather came and caught us off our guard
we were just laughing and feelin' alright
had such a great time just last night
we walked into a minefield undetected
you took a tone and I took offense
anger replacing all common sense

oh run for you life
all tenderness is gone
in the blink of an eye
all goodwill has withdrawn
and we mark out our paces and
stare out from our faces
but baby you and I are gone gone gone

incomprehensible layers of isolation
now you're the man with a heart of stone
making me pay here by being alone
seemingly justified righteous indignation
now I'm the woman who holds all her pain
looking for somebody else to blame

we hold all the keys to our undoing
cutting me down in small degrees
you know my worst insecurities
I'm making no effort to understand
no one can hurt you like I can
deep down inside the girl's waking up
she's calling out to the boy she loves

it's me
oh baby it's me
how in the world can tenderness be gone
in the blink of an eye

the girl in me she's callin out
oh the girl in me she's callin out
to the boy in you
to the boy in you

baby come back
baby come back to me


Wanting What I Have said...

Wow. I am there so often. Thank you for tenderly being so transparent. You encourage me. This is the second song you've introduced me to that will no doubt become a favorite. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Hi Heather, as someone who is still "newly" married, this is actually comforting! I know that sounds strange, but it affirms that Mathew and I are normal! Sometimes when we fight I can make it seem so much bigger then it is and the actual issue we were arguing about doesn't even matter to me, its the fighting part! It takes me a bit to realize that this will pass and it doens't make Mathew and I any less in love, you know?
Love that song!

The Big C said...

I don't think you and Terry are realizing the positive impact you are having on our lives. Thank you for this post, I know that we are not alone.

See you around!

Heather said...

Dear Big C,

I THINK I know who you are (?). Thanks for your comment. I know that any influence we have is only the Holy Spirit working in us and using our "junk" to help others. I'm soooo thankful for that!


Craig and Bethany said...

YES. Really walked that road this week. Thanks. When it's all said and done, I always want to hide my face at how petty and begrudging I can be. That song is super good.